The Quick & Easy Way to Effective speaking

QHB's 10 Points of Focus and Summaries

The Quick & Easy Way to Effective Speaking 10 Points:

1. Learn from Others: Gain courage by observing others' experiences and mistakes.

2. Communicate Effectively: Effective communication is crucial for success, requiring both speaking and listening skills.

3. Develop Confidence: Overcome fear through practice and spontaneity, avoiding memorization.

4. Speak with Purpose: Share personal experiences and knowledge to engage and connect with the audience.

5. Earning the Right to Talk: Limit your subject, prepare thoroughly, and personalize your talk with illustrations and examples.

6. Vitalize Your Talk: Express enthusiasm and sincerity, engaging the audience with passion and emotion.

7. Audience Engagement: Tailor your talk to the audience's interests, involve them actively, and use showmanship to maintain attention.

8. Action-Oriented Talks: Persuade, inform, impress, and entertain your audience with clear, concise points and relevant examples.

9. Effective Communication Techniques: Use visual aids, simplicity, and empathy to convey your message convincingly.

10. Continuous Improvement: Practice expressiveness, organization, and specificity in everyday conversations to refine your communication skills.

QHB's Selected Book Quotes and Summaries

*** DC = Dale Carnegie (The Author)

=== Chapter 1: Acquiring the Basic Skills ===

# “First: Take heart from the experience of others” - DC

# “The ability to communicate effectively with others and win their cooperation is an asset we look for in men moving to the top.” - Henry Blackstone

# “I did it the same way i learned to skate - by doggedly making a fool of myself until i got used to it.” - George Bernard Shaw

# “You will never know what progress you can make unless you speak, and speak, and speak again.” - DC

=== Chapter 2: Developing Confidence ===

# “Fear defeats more people than any other thing in the world.” - Emerson

# “Stage fright is almost always present just before they speak, and it may persist through the first few sentences of their talk.” - DC

# “Fear is misbegotten of ignorance and uncertainty.” - Professor Robinson

# “He made his talk as Rousseau says a love letter should be written: he begin without knowing what he was going to say and finished without knowing what he had said.” - DC

# “NEVER MEMORIZE A TALK WORD FOR WORD” - DC

# “From this day, Kaltenborn never read nor memorized his speech. That has been the secret of success in his broadcasting career. He makes a few notes and talk naturally to his listeners without a script.” - DC

# “The man who writes out and memorizes his talks is wasting time and energy, and is courting disaster. Remember, all of our lives we have been speaking spontaneously.” - DC

# “If we memorize our talk word for word. We will probably forget it when we face our listeners.” - DC

# “Lose yourself in your subject” - DC

# “To feel brave, act as if we were brave, use all of our will to the end, and a courage fit will very likely replace the fir pf fear.” - Professor William James

# “To develop courage when facing an audience, act as if you already had it.” - Professor William James

=== Chapter Three: Speaking Effectively The Quick and Easy Way ===

# “Speak about something you have earned the right to talk about through experience or study.” - DC

# “Tell us what life has taught you.” - DC

# “How do you find topics? By dipping into your memory and searching your background for those significant aspects of your life that made vivid impressions on you.” - DC

# “If something stands out vividly in your memory after many years have gone by, that almost guarantees that it will be of an interest to the audience, which includes: Early struggles to get ahead, Hobbies and recreation, Special area of knowledge, Unusual experience and Belief and convictions" - DC

# “Only by talking something you have earned the right to talk about will you be able to fulfill the second requirement: Be sure you are excited about your subject.” - DC

# “Bishop Sheen learned a lesson he will always remembers: he put himself into his talk. He became excited about his subject matter.” - DC

# “The instructor assured this man that the only way to gauge interest value of a subject was to ask yourself how interested you are in it.” - DC

=== Chapter 4: Earning the Right to Talk ===

# “Not once did he illustrate a point with anything approaching a personal experience.” - DC

# “First: Limit your subject.” - DC

# “This is true to any subject, whether it be salesmanship, baking cakes or ballistic missiles. You must limit and select before you begin, narrow your subject down an area that will fit the time at your disposal.” - DC

# “Always prepare so that you are ready for any emergency, such as change of emphasis because of a previous speakers remarks, or a well aimed question from the audience.” - DC

# “What i have to say is, i believe, far too important to write down on paper. I prefer to write on my audience mind, on their emotions, with every ounce of my being. A piece of paper cannot stand between me and those i want to impress.” - Charles F. Kettering

# “Fill your talk with illustrations and Examples.” - DC

# “The richest source of such human interest material is your own background.” - DC

# “Personalize your talk by using names.” - DC

# “Be specific by filling in your talk with the details. Use the 5 W formula: When, Where, Who, What and Why?” - DC

# “But of course, too much detail is worse than none.” - DC

# “Always Dramatize your talk by using dialogue.” - DC

# “One of the best ways to enrich a talk with detail is to incorporate visual demonstration into it.” - DC

# “One picture is worth ten thousand words.” - Ancient Chinese Saying

# “the speaker who is easy to listen to is the one who sets images floating before your eyes. Pictures, Pictures & Pictures. They are free as the air you breathe. Sprinkle them through your talks, your conversation and you will be more entertaining, more influential.” - DC

# “If any those who studied the art of writing, the surest way to arouse and hold attention of the reader is by being specific, definite and concrete. The greatest writers such as Shakespeare are effective largely because they deal in particulars and report the details that matters. Their words call up Pictures.” - William Strunk Jr

=== Chapter 5: Vitalizing the Talk ===

# “They talked with life and spirit. Their arms moved in impassioned gestures. Their voices rang with conviction. They radiated earnestness and animation. Vitality, Aliveness, Enthusiasm - These are the qualities i have always considered essential in a speaker.” - DC

# “First: Choose subjects you are earnest about.” - DC

# “There is only one way to make sure they will be interested: Stoke the fires of your enthusiasm for the subject and you will have no difficulty holding the interest of a group of people.” - DC

# “Here is another suggestion: Learn more and more about what you know consider a pretty good topic. The more you know about something the more the earnest and excitedly enthusiastic you will become.” - DC

# “One of the reasons why we go to plays and movies is that we want to hear and see emotions expressed.” - DC

=== Chapter 6: Sharing the Talk with the Audience ===

# “Dr Conwell was thoroughly aware that successful communication depend upon how well the speaker can make his talk a part of the listeners and the listeners a part of the talk.” - DC

# “First: Talk in terms of your listeners interest.” - DC

# “Second: Give honest, sincere appreciation.” - DC

# “Tell them something about themselves that they didn’t think you could possibly know.” - DC

# “Another method of keeping the audience at peak attentiveness is to use the pronoun “you” rather than third person “they”.” - DC

# “Fourth: Make your audience a partner in your talk. Did it ever occur to you that you can keep an audience hanging on every word by using a little showmanship?” - DC

=== Chapter 7: Making the Short Talk to get Action ===

# “He failed with these soldiers. Why? He evidently knee neither the precise purpose of his talk nor how to accomplish it.” - DC

# “Every speaker realizes or not, has 4 major goals: To persuade or get actions. To inform. To impress and convince. To entertain.”" - DC

# “First: Give your example, an incident from your life.” - DC

# “Build your example upon a single personal experience.” - DC

# “Fill your example with relevant details.” - DC

# “Second: state your point, what you want your audience to do. Make the point brief and specific.” - DC

# “Make the point easy for listeners to do, and state the point with force and conviction.” - DC

# “ Remember: No ad attempts to sell more than one product or one idea at a time.” - DC

# “The magic formula is to persuade people to buy your ideas or products.” - DC

=== Chapter 8: Making the Talk to Inform ==

# “This is the trouble with many speakers. They don’t know what such speakers are talking about. They never make their meaning clear.” - DC

# “First: Restrict your subject to fit the time at your disposal.” - DC

# “Turn a fact into a picture.” - DC

# “It is a good practice to pick out the least intelligent looking person in the audience and strive to make that person interested in your argument. If a child can understand it, most people will understand it as-well.” - DC

# “Think as wise man do, but speak as the common people do.” - Aristotle

# “First: Use visual aids. One seeing is better than a hundred times telling about.” - Japanese Proverb

=== Chapter Nine: Making the Talk to convince ===

# “Sincerity, earnestness & enthusiasm- a blazing determination is what won us over.” - DC

# “Second: Get a ‘Yes’ Response” - DC

# “The best argument is that which seems merely an explanation.” - The Mirror

# “Fourth: Show respect and affection for your audience.” - DC

=== Chapter Ten: Making Impromptu Talks ===

# “Launch into your topic as soon as possible, if not immediately, and please follow this advice: use examples immediately and speak with animation and force straight away.” - DC

# “Audiences are interested in themselves and what they are doing.” - DC

=== Part Four: The Art of Communicating ===

# “Expressiveness is the result of earning the right, and having an eager to desire.” - DC

=== Chapter Eleven: Delivering the Mark ===

# “We all admire speakers who can put showmanship into their speaking, who are not afraid to express themselves, not afraid to use the unique, individual, imaginative way of saying what they have to say to the audience.” - DC

# “Converse with your audience.” - DC

# “And that is the first essential of good talking: a sense of communication.” - DC

# “He was earnestly trying to get us to see what he saw and to feel what he felt. And what was the result? He delivered a remarkable talk.” - DC

# “Put your heart into your speaking.” - DC

# “Practice making your voice strong and flexible.” - DC

=== Part 5: The Challenge of Effective Speaking ===

=== Chapter 12: Introducing Speakers, Presenting and Accepting Awards ===

# “Introduction ought to sell the topic to the audience and it ought to sell the speaker. And it ought to do these things in the briefest amount of time possible.” - DC

# “Follow the T.I.S. formula: Topic; Importance of the topic and Speaker’s reason for why is qualified to give such talk.” - DC

# “The best way to present a speaker is to give his name or to say, ‘I present’ and give his name.” - DC

# “Be enthusiastic.” - DC

# “Be warmly sincere.” - DC

# “Always end with a sincere thank you.” - DC

=== Chapter 13: Organizing the Longer Talk ===

# “A talk is a voyage with a purpose, and it must be chartered. The man who starts nowhere, generally gets there.” - DC

# “Begin your talk with an incident - Example” - DC

# “Creating suspense is a sure fire method of getting your listeners interested.” - DC

# “ A splendid way to get interested attention is to ask the audience to raise their hands to answer a question.” - DC

# “Second: Avoid getting unfavorable attention.” - DC

# “A sense of humor, though, is a prized asset for any speaker.” - DC

# “Support your main ideas. Use statistics.” - DC

# “The man who Have succeeded in speeches are the men who have chosen one line and stuck to it.” - DC

# “What gives spark to your speeches? It is your support material. Thats what gives interest in your talk.” - DC

# “First, tell them what you are going to tell them, and then tell them. Then tell them what you have told them.” - Irish Politician

# “ You see what he has done? He has summed up in a few sentences, practically all the points he had made in the entire talk.” - DC

=== Chapter Fourteen: Applying What You Have Learned ===

# “First: Use specific detail in everyday conversation.” - DC

# “If you are resolutely determined to make a lawyer of yourself, the thing is more than half done already.” - Abraham Lincoln

# “More exceptional men sometimes got discouraged or too deeply immersed in money making, and they did not get too far. But the ordinary individuals with grit and singleness of purpose, at the end of the road, was at the top.” - DC

# “Clear, forceful and emphatic expressiveness is one of the marks of leadership in society.” - DC

=== END OF BOOK ===